How the Aziz Ansari Debate Is Currently Missing the Point

Aziz Ansari on sexual misconduct allegation'I was surprised and concerned

Aziz Ansari on sexual misconduct allegation'I was surprised and concerned

Comedian and Master of None star Aziz Ansari has responded to allegations of sexual misconduct made by a Brooklyn-based photographer that took place in September 2017.

In an interview with the website babe, the 23-year-old woman described a first date last year with Ansari in which she said he repeatedly tried to initiate sex while ignoring her verbal and non-verbal cues.

By Sunday, Jan. 14, Ansari had issued a statement saying they did go out to dinner and engaged in sexual acts.

"I'm sorry you had a bad date", said Banfield, accusing the woman of equating her experience with sexual assault or harassment that injured her work prospects. "It is necessary and long overdue", Ansari's statement concluded.

Ansari won a Golden Globe last week for his romantic-comedy series "Master of None" on Netflix.

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Babe.net published the story January 14 under the harrowing headline, "I went on a date with Aziz Ansari. Is that what you truly think he deserved for your night out?"

Babe said they had confirmed the number Grace was texting matched to the comedian's -and verified her story with a roommate, who had allegedly talked to her afterwards. Ansari acknowledges her feelings, and suggests they "chill on the couch". "But he kept asking, so I said, 'Next time.' And he goes, 'Oh, you mean second date?' and I go, 'Oh, yeah, sure, ' and he goes, 'Well, if I poured you another glass of wine now, would it count as our second date?'" She eventually got up and told the actor that she was going to call a vehicle to take her home. Lucky you. But as you grow in your photography career, I really do hope you remember what you did to someone else's career all because of that bad date that was not sexual assault, that was not sexual harassment, by your description. That argument sidesteps an uncomfortable truth, though-that if what happened between Ansari and his accuser can't be considered assault because it's all too common, perhaps what we consider common when it comes to sex needs to end. "I know I was physically giving off cues that I wasn't interested", the accuser, using the alias Grace, told the site. "And I did. I think I just felt really pressured".

If I could pinpoint the moment Grace mentally withdrew her consent, it has to be after Ansari performed what Grace termed "the claw", sticking two fingers down her throat, then rubbing them on her genitals - a move I could have lived a long and happy life without knowing about.

"You have chiseled way at a movement that I, along with all my sisters in the workplace, having been dreaming of for decades", she said. "The only sentence a guy like that deserves is a bad case of blue balls", she said. If the inability to choose a pinot noir over a pinot grigio offends you, you can leave right then and there. Implying that this is in anyway Grace's fault for not speaking up - instead of Aziz's fault for ignoring the fact that she did (a luxury that many other women aren't afforded in similar situations), completely takes the responsibility off of Aziz. By your description, your sexual encounter was unpleasant... Not exactly of sexual assault, but of some vague kind of manly misconduct. And here is where I am going to claim victim. Yes, we should teach men and women about sex and respect. "But part of what women are saying right now is that what the culture considers "normal" sexual encounters are not working for us, and oftentimes hurtful".

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